Depression and anxiety.
I think we can all agree, this tackles a huge amount of people worldwide and we all need to do our best to talk about it and help where we can.
Depression and anxiety are a pair that can completely destroy a person. I don’t think J.K Rowling’s books are for someone that is in that dark room and can’t get out, as Buzzfeed suggests.
Getting help can be one of the biggest and hardest steps to take. And I find it so shocking that it isn’t spoken about more and help isn’t well advertised. My whole heart goes out to people who are suffering. Nothing can quite pin point that darkest feeling. BUT there is hope. You are not alone.
I’m going to list helpful things I’ve discovered along the way, in the hope that someone out there suffering will read this and it may help them take the first steps.
Videos / Books
Books can be daunting especially when you’re in that state. But watch videos if not, just in the background to start off. I guarantee you will get hooked.
Jim Carey’s speech:
Even the best people go through these stages.
Eckhart Tolle is the most captivating person I have seen. He sounds a little strange when he talks but he is living without a single worry, and you can tell by watching him. He is so present and in control of his own mind he gets so much from every day life. This instantly makes sense and you can apply his advise to any situation. Also what he says is logical! Unlike your Ego. He also appears on Operah’s chat show. I also highly recommend his book, The Power of Now. It is the best book I have ever read and it saved me from some very dark moments. It helps you create space and stops you from identifying that these thoughts are you. I read that book in two days non stop, on buses, in between work, whenever I could. (I have never been into reading and usually extremely slow at it). I was obsessed. It blew my mind. I couldn’t understand why I had never heard of this book and some of these most obvious theories.
Another short book I would also recommend is As a Man Thinketh. Although it has some out of date words, it is short, so simple and so so right. It explains these irrational thoughts and makes you realise there is hope and that it is changeable, within your control.
Also when you are out of that darkness spot. But are still feeling anxious and depressed and still feel stuck. Listen to Tony Robbins podcasts on Youtube, watch his workshops on Youtube. You’re in for a shock and you will feel empowered.
He deals with people who are suicidal and have a number of anxieties and want help shifting their life.
For a more motivational chat. Listen to Zig Ziglar’s podcasts / book or buy his CD’s online.
Things to try:
Affirmations in the mirror in the morning and before bed. – You start the day and end the day reminding yourself of what you really are and are capable of.
Yoga – You might not think it’s for you, just go and try it! (If you can’t afford classes, Youtube)
Walk round the block even if you’re upset
Meditate – Just put it on and listen even if you think it’s not helping. (Headspace is particularly good)
Deep Breaths and take baths
If you can get access to CBT or Therapy do it. If you can’t go and ask your GP, they will help. – There are so many stigmas to therapy… it is just talking to someone it’s like having a non biased friend to hear you out and give you suggestions!
And the most important thing is talk about it or write it down so you can physically see it, the thoughts are out there and not running around in your head. They are thoughts. There is help out there. There are people that care.
You are important.
(I couldn’t sleep, eat or do anything. I felt physically ill. I soon came to realise, I wasn’t. It was my body’s way of asking for help. I went out and found all these tools and resources. I’m still a work in progress, but it’s training. It’s like going to the gym and working out, the more you do, it the easier it is. One habit of your thoughts has been dictating, it’s time to train the other part of you.)